According to the CSO*, 500 people die by suicide in Ireland every year and 72% of these deaths are men. Research tells us that up to 135 people are affected by each death, which means that 60,000 people are affected by suicide in Ireland every year. Significantly less men than women access suicide bereavement support services. It is vital that men know that accessing support can be lifesaving, that their grief is valid and they deserve help.
Fiona Tuomey, HUGG Founder and CEO, stated “We want men to know understanding their grief and connecting with others can be lifesaving. They may carry unanswered questions, stigma, self-isolation and blame, in addition to the trauma of losing their loved one. We also know that dedicated support can help alleviate these impacts. Therefore, HUGG is launching its first dedicated male only suicide bereavement support group, led by men for men.”
The impact of a suicide ripples outwards often negatively affecting the mental health and quality of life of the suicide bereaved. AfterWords**, the national survey of people bereaved by suicide in Ireland conducted by HUGG and the National Suicide Research Foundation, found unhealthy coping habits such as the use of alcohol, drugs and gambling more prevalent among suicide bereaved men, than women.
Following a death by suicide 65% of men experienced mental health problems; 40% used alcohol to cope with their grief; 33% reported problems with family relationships and 28% said their physical health deteriorated.
The launch of HUGG Men, the charity’s first dedicated male only suicide bereavement support group, coincides with Men’s Health Week will meet monthly online, from June 2024.
Commenting on the launch Marie McKeon, HUGG Groups Manager said, “The HUGG Men support group will explore themes focused on suicide grief, grieving styles and healthy coping strategies. It will give men a safe space to connect, to normalise their grief and discuss challenges and helpful tools to living life beyond grief and into hope.”
John Murphy, a HUGG Men support group volunteer reflected, “After losing my brother and four first cousins to suicide I know the pain of suicide loss. Connecting with others who understood my pain helped enormously and I want to pass this message on.”
The meeting will take place online monthly, from 8-9.30 pm on a Tuesday. For details about joining the HUGG Men support group, Email: support@hugg.ie or call 01 513 4048 (monitored answering machine) and we will call you back to tell you all about the group and answer any questions you might have.
If you are ready to join a group now, complete the online form at hugg.ie